9 Insights on this Incredible LIFE

Carpe Diem

 This came from www.seetheperfection.com and re-posted by www.babeandbutter.com and I am re-posting it here because I enjoyed it so much.
 
I am re-posting this again because I needed a refresher.

9 Insights on this Incredible LIFE

1. You are not your mind.
The first time I heard somebody say that,  I didn’t like the sound of it one bit. What else could I be? I had taken for granted that the mental chatter in my head was the central “me” that all the experiences in my life were happening to.
I see quite clearly now that life is nothing but passing experiences, and my thoughts are just one more category of things I experience. Thoughts are no more fundamental than smells, sights and sounds. Like any experience, they arise in my awareness, they have a certain texture, and then they give way to something else.
If you can observe your thoughts just like you can observe other objects, who’s doing the observing? Don’t answer too quickly. This question, and its unspeakable answer, are at the centre of all the great religions and spiritual traditions.
2. Life unfolds only in moments.
Of course! I once called this the most important thing I ever learned. Nobody has ever experienced anything that wasn’t part of a single moment unfolding. That means life’s only challenge is dealing with the single moment you are having right now. Before I recognized this, I was constantly trying to solve my entire life — battling problems that weren’t actually happening. Anyone can summon the resolve to deal with a single, present moment, as long as they are truly aware that it’s their only point of contact with life, and therefore there is nothing else one can do that can possibly be useful. Nobody can deal with the past or future, because, both only exist as thoughts, in the present. But we can kill ourselves trying.
3. Quality of life is determined by how you deal with your moments, not which moments happen and which don’t.
I now consider this truth to be Happiness 101, but it’s amazing how tempting it still is to grasp at control of every circumstance to try to make sure I get exactly what I want. To encounter an undesirable situation and work with it willingly is the mark of a wise and happy person. Imagine getting a flat tire, falling ill at a bad time, or knocking something over and breaking it — and suffering nothing from it. There is nothing to fear if you agree with yourself to deal willingly with adversity whenever it does show up. That is how to make life better. The typical, low-leverage method is to hope that you eventually accumulate power over your circumstances so that you can get what you want more often. There’s an excellent line in a Modest Mouse song, celebrating this side-effect of wisdom: As life gets longer, awful feels softer.
4. Most of life is imaginary.
Human beings have a habit of compulsive thinking that is so pervasive that we lose sight of the fact that we are nearly always thinking. Most of what we interact with is not the world itself, but our beliefs about it, our expectations of it, and our personal interests in it. We have a very difficult time observing something without confusing it with the thoughts we have about it, and so the bulk of what we experience in life is imaginary things. As Mark Twain said: “I’ve been through some terrible things in my life, some of which actually happened.” The best treatment I’ve found? Cultivating mindfulness.
5. Human beings have evolved to suffer, and we are better at suffering than anything else.
Yikes. It doesn’t sound like a very liberating discovery. I used to believe that if I was suffering it meant that there was something wrong with me — that I was doing life “wrong.” Suffering is completely human and completely normal, and there is a very good reason for its existence. Life’s persistent background hum of “this isn’t quite okay, I need to improve this,” coupled with occasional intense flashes of horror and adrenaline are what kept human beings alive for millions of years. This urge to change or escape the present moment drives nearly all of our behaviour. It’s a simple and ruthless survival mechanism which works exceedingly well for keeping us alive, but it has a horrific side effect: human beings suffer greatly by their very nature. This, for me, redefined every one of life’s problems as some tendril of the human condition. As grim as it sounds, this insight is liberating because it means: 1) that suffering does not necessarily mean my life is going wrong, 2) that the ball is always in my court, so the degree to which I suffer is ultimately up to me, and 3) that all problems have the same cause and the same solution.
6. Emotions exist to make us biased.
This discovery was a complete 180 from my old understanding of emotions. I used to think my emotions were reliable indicators of the state of my life — of whether I’m on the right track or not. Your passing emotional states can’t be trusted for measuring your self-worth or your position in life, but they are great at teaching you what it is you can’t let go of. The trouble is that emotions make us both more biased and more forceful at the same time. Another survival mechanism  with nasty side-effects.
7. All people operate from the same two motivations: to fulfil their desires and to escape their suffering.
Learning this allowed me to finally make sense of how people can hurt each other so badly. The best explanation I had before this was that some people are just bad. What a cop-out. No matter what kind of behaviour other people exhibit, they are acting in the most effective way they are capable of (at that moment) to fulfill a desire or to relieve their suffering. These are motives we can all understand; we only vary in method, and the methods each of us has at our disposal depend on our upbringing and our experiences in life, as well as our state of consciousness. Some methods are skilful and helpful to others, others are unskilful and destructive, and almost all destructive behaviour is unconscious. So there is no good and evil, only smart and dumb (or wise and foolish.) Understanding this completely shook my long-held notions of morality and justice.
8. Beliefs are nothing to be proud of.
Believing something is not an accomplishment. I grew up thinking that beliefs are something to be proud of, but they’re really nothing but opinions one refuses to reconsider. Beliefs are easy. The stronger your beliefs are, the less open you are to growth and wisdom, because “strength of belief” is only the intensity with which you resist questioning yourself. As soon as you are proud of a belief, as soon as you think it adds something to who you are, then you’ve made it a part of your ego. Listen to any “die-hard” conservative or liberal talk about their deepest beliefs and you are listening to somebody who will never hear what you say on any matter that matters to them — unless you believe the same. It is gratifying to speak forcefully, it is gratifying to be agreed with, and this high is what the die-hards are chasing. Wherever there is a belief, there is a closed door. Take on the beliefs that stand up to your most honest, humble scrutiny, and never be afraid to lose them.
9. Objectivity is subjective.
Life is a subjective experience and that cannot be escaped. Every experience I have comes through my own, personal, un-sharable viewpoint. There can be no peer reviews of my direct experience, no real corroboration. This has some major implications for how I live my life. The most immediate one is that I realize I must trust my own personal experience, because nobody else has this angle, and I only have this angle. Another is that I feel more wonder for the world around me, knowing that any “objective” understanding I claim to have of the world is built entirely from scratch, by me. What I do build depends on the books I’ve read, the people I’ve met, and the experiences I’ve had. It means I will never see the world quite like anyone else, which means I will never live in quite the same world as anyone else — and therefore I mustn’t let outside observers be the authority on who I am or what life is really like for me. Subjectivity is primary experience — it is real life, and objectivity is something each of us builds on top of it in our minds, privately, in order to explain it all. This truth has world-shattering implications for the roles of religion and science in the lives of those who grasp it.
Have a wonder-filled day,
Donna Flanagin
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Take a Wish

I received one of the most memorable birthday presents for my 60th birthday.  As well as a surprise visit by my brother and sister-in-law, they bought me a beautiful bowl and filled it with 60 wishes for me to enjoy for the next 60 days.

Take A Wish
I am having so much fun everyone morning, starting my day with their wish, that I decided to adapt it for my business.  Why not have a wish bowl with a sign “Take A Wish”  for my customers?
 
I do wish good things for my customers, so why not tell them? 
 
If you would like to have a “Take A Wish” bowl for your customers, I will share mine with you, feel free to print and use them. 
 
  • Our wish for you…..A fresh start when you need it most.
  • Our wish for you…..that your friends ask only for your time not your money.
  • Our wish for you…..A friend is a present you give yourself. We wish you many friends.
  • Our wish for you…..that you realize a hunch is creativity trying to tell you something.
  • Our wish for you…..that a light heart carries you through all the hard times.
  • Our wish for you…..that a new perspective will come when and where you need it.
  • Our wish for you…..that a pleasant surprise is waiting for you.
  • Our wish for you…..that your journey is smooth and joyful.
  • Our wish for you…..a soft voice to guide you.
  • Our wish for you…..a truly rich life full of love and abundance.
  • Our wish for you…..that you can accept something that you cannot change.
  • Our wish for you…..an adventure that brings you real happiness.
  • Our wish for you…..that all your efforts will ultimately pay off.
  • Our wish for you…..that all your troubles will pass away very quickly.
  • Our wish for you…..that you allow compassion to guide your decisions.
  • Our wish for you…..that you have the support of an important person.
  • Our wish for you…..that you are deeply respected by many.
  • Our wish for you…..that you believe in yourself and others will too.
  • Our wish for you…..that you believe it can be done.
  • Our wish for you…..that joy surrounds you all day long.
  • Our wish for you…..that your curiosity kills your boredom. Nothing can kill curiosity.
  • Our wish for you…..a calm mind to tackle your day.
  • Our wish for you…..you find the path which fate has you assigned.
  • Our wish for you…..all the determination you need.
  • Our wish for you…..that believing creates your magic.
  • Our wish for you…..that you distance yourself from all things negative.
  • Our wish for you…..that you are not intimidated by the eloquence of others.
  • Our wish for you…..that ambition does not overshadow success.
  • Our wish for you…..the realization that all human beings have unlimited potential.
  • Our wish for you…..that every wrong decision discarded is another step forward.
  • Our wish for you…..that you don’t just spend time, that you invest it.
  • Our wish for you…..that you don’t just think, but act!
  • Our wish for you…..that you don’t let the past define your future.
  • Our wish for you…..that you don’t let your limitations overshadow your talents.
  • Our wish for you…..that when prosperity knocks at your door, that you open it.
  • Our wish for you…..that when opportunity knocks, you open the door.
  • Our wish for you…..that you emulate what you admired in your parents.
  • Our wish for you…..that you emulate what you respect in your friends.
  • Our wish for you…..that you believe everyday in your life is a special occasion.
  • Our wish for you…..that you realize failure is the chance to do better next time.
  • Our wish for you…..that your kindness will lead you to success.
  • Our wish for you…..that happiness begins with facing life with a smile and a wink.
  • Our wish for you…..that a true sense of value comes through service to others.
  • Our wish for you…..that your life is abundant.
  • Our wish for you…..that in the end all things will be perfect.
  • Our wish for you…..that you have the courage to fail and get back up.
  • Our wish for you…..that you keep your face to the sunshine and never see shadows.
  • Our wish for you…..that your world is filled with tranquility and goodwill.
  • Our wish for you…..that living with a commitment to excellence will take you far.
  • Our wish for you…..that your love lights up the world.
  • Our wish for you…..that your life will travel miles, one sweet step at a time.
  • Our wish for you…..that your favorite medicine is love, time and patience.
  • Our wish for you…..that you never fear, the end of 1 thing marks the start of something new.
  • Our wish for you…..the peace and tranquility to let your creativity flow through.
  • Our wish for you…..the courage to try something new.
  • Our wish for you…..that pennies from heaven find their way to your doorstep.
  • Our wish for you…..the vision to plan your future.
  • Our wish for you…..peaceful rest for your physical and emotional health.
  • Our wish for you…..the ability to savor your freedom — it is precious.
  • Our wish for you…..the ability to share your joys and sorrows with people you love.
  • Our wish for you…..that soon life will become more interesting.
  • Our wish for you…..that you stand tall and don’t look down upon yourself.  
  • Our wish for you…..that you stop searching because happiness is within.
  • Our wish for you…..the realization that success is a journey, not a destination.
  • Our wish for you…..that your travels are always on the high road.
  • Our wish for you…..that the changes you start have far-reaching effects. Be ready.
  • Our wish for you…..that you begin trusting your intuitions.
  • Our wish for you…..that you can predict the future, by inventing it.
  • Our wish for you…..that you generously share, even with the undeserving.
  • Our wish for you…..that you find joy in the accomplishment of others.
  • Our wish for you…..that many surprises await you!
  • Our wish for you…..that you can welcome change.
  • Our wish for you…..that your heart is pure, your mind is clear.
  • Our wish for you…..that you are busy AND happy.
  • Our wish for you…..that today you are generous to an extreme and it boomerangs back.
  • Our wish for you…..that you are in good hands always.
  • Our wish for you…..that you a generous with your advice and your help.
  • Our wish for you…..that your friends are generous with their help when needed.
  • Our wish for you…..that if you are offered the dream of a lifetime that you say YES!
  • Our wish for you…..that your friends are solid and dependable.
  • Our wish for you…..an active mind and a keen imagination.
  • Our wish for you…..that you exceed what was expected.
  • Our wish for you…..that you have the power to write your own future.
  • Our wish for you…..that you are able to make money and most importantly hold on to it.
  • Our wish for you…..that you are able to undertake and complete anything you want.
  • Our wish for you…..that you have fun with others and also enjoy your solitude.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will always be surrounded by true friends.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will always get what you want through believing.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will be blessed.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will work at a profession you love.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will enjoy good health.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will find great contentment in the daily, routine activities.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will find your pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
  • Our wish for you…..that when needed, you will make change for the better.
  • Our wish for you…..that you will be surrounded by good friends and laughter.
  • Our wish for you…..that your hard work is appreciated.
  • Our wish for you…..that your difficulties will strengthen you.
  • Our wish for you…..that your dreams will guide you.
  • Our wish for you…..that your happiness is before you, not behind you!
  • Our wish for you…..that your home is the center of great love.
  • Our wish for you…..that your ideals are well within your reach.
  • Our wish for you…..that your patience will be rewarded.
  • Our wish for you…..that your life will be happy and peaceful.
  • Our wish for you…..that your life will get more and more exciting.
  • Our wish for you…..that your success will astonish everyone.
  • Our wish for you…..A year of Monday’s that feel like Friday’s.
  • Our wish for you…..A cool breeze on a hot summer day.
  • Our wish for you…..A peaceful walk in nature.
  • Our wish for you…..A moment of silence when the world is too loud.
  • Our wish for you…..a flood of great childhood memories.
  • Our wish for you…..that each passing year brings you wisdom, peace and cheer.
  • Our wish for you…..that your day is as special as you.
  • Our wish for you…..that you measure your life by smiles, not tears.
  • Our wish for you…..that today brings you an extra dose of happiness.
  • Our wish for you…..that today brings you an extra dose of joy.
  • Our wish for you…..that your best years are still ahead of you.
  • Our wish for you…..that your dreams turn to reality.
  • Our wish for you…..miles of smiles today.
  • Our wish for you…..that lovely surprises are coming your way.
  • Our wish for you…..that your worries are far between.
  • Our wish for you…..A good book and the time to read it.
  • Our wish for you…..hugs when your spirit sags.
  • Our wish for you…..the perfect day.
  • Our wish for you…..a sense of humor when you need it most.
  • Our wish for you…..a luxurious bath and the time to enjoy it.
  • Our wish for you…..abundant blessings.
  • Our wish for you…..a feeling of calm in the storm.
  • Our wish for you…..that you can pay attention to life when it speaks.
  • Our wish for you…..

Leave a comment of your favorite wishes and I will add them to my list and bowl.

Have a wish-filled day,

Donna Flanagin

Random me:  I am making it a pajama day today.   Usually one per winter 🙂

 

 
 
 
 
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